If you choose to work with me, our sessions will be tailored to what you bring. There may be more exploration of what matters to you, or more attention to practical ways of achieving your goals. Normally there has to be a bit of both, as changes need a solid foundation of self-knowledge and authentic values to be lasting.
I see the process as a reflective dialogue in which we are both committed to investigating things with curiosity. For my part, I will really listen to your story and do what I can to help you to:
understand yourself better
clarify what really matters to you
identify what is working and what you would like to change
challenge the beliefs and patterns that are holding you back
make choices that genuinely reflect your values
start taking effective steps towards your goals
deal with obstacles constructively
‘Begin taking action now, while being neurotic or imperfect, or a procrastinator or unhealthy or lazy or any other label by which you inaccurately describe yourself. Go ahead and be the best imperfect person you can be and get started on those things you want to accomplish before you die.’ (Shoma Morita)
I draw on a number of approaches, both exploratory and solution-focused, which have given me a range of skills and tools to help you to live life more fully.
These are the models that have influenced me the most:
Existential psychotherapy and philosophical counselling focus on exploring and clarifying the values and assumptions that direct our life and our actions, whether we realise it or not. The question is whether these really are the values and beliefs we want to live by.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy and Cognitive-Behavioural Coaching, on the other hand, concentrate on finding our strengths, identifying manageable goals and breaking them down into concrete steps that we can gradually move towards.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Morita therapy offer a very important and distinctive insight: we don’t have to change our feelings in order to take action. What we need to do instead is learn to coexist with unpleasant feelings while we start taking valued action.